The Washington Post is just actively trolling all women this week. Here’s a little bit of today’s hot take on what women can do to avoid getting beaten or raped:
The dramatic social media response to the UC-Santa Barbara shooting, captured by the hashtag #YesAllWomen, underlined an important and unpleasant truth: across the United States, millions of girls and women have been abused, assaulted, or raped by men, and even more females fear that they will be subject to such an attack. As Sarah Kliff wrote in Vox: a “national survey of American women found that a slight majority (51.9 percent) reported experiencing physical violence at some point in their life.”
This social media outpouring makes it clear that some men pose a real threat to the physical and psychic welfare of women and girls. But obscured in the public conversation about the violence against women is the fact that some other men are more likely to protect women, directly and indirectly, from the threat of male violence: married biological fathers. The bottom line is this: Married women are notably safer than their unmarried peers, and girls raised in a home with their married father are markedly less likely to be abused or assaulted than children living without their own father.
To be sure, it doesn’t take a viewing of “The Burning Bed” or “Safe Haven”to realize that married men can and do abuse or assault their wives or daughters. Marriage is no panacea when it comes to male violence. But married fathers are much less likely to resort to violence than men who are not tied by marriage or biology to a female. And, most fundamentally, for the girls and women in their lives, married fathers provide direct protection by watching out for the physical welfare of their wives and daughters, and indirect protection by increasing the odds they live in safe homes and are not exposed to men likely to pose a threat.
So, women: if you’re the product of a good marriage, and feel safer as a consequence, lift a glass to dear old dad this Sunday.
Hey ladies: If you don’t want to be subjected to abuse by men, marry one! He’s much less likely to assault or otherwise abuse you … though, truthfully, he still might. But, either way, at least we know one thing for sure: If you have sex with a man (or, heaven forbid, men!) and you’re not married, you’re not doing your level best not to be the victim of violence. Work harder, ladies!
As the subheading tells us: “The data show that #yesallwomen would be safer hitched to their baby daddies.”
No word here on what men can do to stop raping and assaulting women. In fact, in the closing paragraph, the authors of the piece note that “married fathers are much less likely to resort to violence than men who are not tied by marriage or biology to a female.” The phrase “to resort to” means “to have recourse to use, often as a final option.” As in, “She was nagging and nagging and nagging and I finally had to resort to beating her.” Or, “She wouldn’t have sex with me even though I asked politely on more than one occasion so I had to resort to rape.”
There’s really nothing men can do to stop hurting women because, in the words of this steaming heap of journalism, the women always had it coming. She either failed to get married to her “baby daddy” or, even if she managed to do that, she surely did something else that led to the abuse from a married father who was much less likely to do it but finally just had to resort to it.
I mean, if it wasn’t the woman’s fault, whose was it? No one’s, obviously.